Real Pleasure is Equal Pleasure in Sexual Intercourse
Between men and women, men seem to enjoy sex more than women. In a recent Regional Durex study1, we found out that 61% of Filipino women enjoy sex less than their partner. Before we go and blame the hormonal differences and libido of each – answer a few questions for us.
- Does sex for you and your partner typically only mean penetrative sex?
- Once men have reached their climax, does that mean the end of sex even if the woman hasn’t reached hers yet?
If you’ve answered yes to both, you might understand the pleasure gap already. It’s the disparity between couples and their orgasms during sexual intercourse. Why does that happen?
Perhaps it could be of conservative views where women aren’t set to the same standards as men when it comes to casual sex, enjoying sex, and her sexuality. They are expected to be the givers and rarely be the receivers of pleasure.
We believe that regardless of gender and sexual orientation, pleasure should be equal. The same goes with 98% of Filipino women who believe it’s important to have equal pleasure during sex. It’s time to promote equality in the bedroom the same way we push for equal pay in careers and egalitarian leadership in our own households.
Women are starting to be vocal about what they want. It’s time for their partners to listen. More women (64.2%) want to receive pleasure and not only give. Here are some tips you can follow so you can both achieve pleasure in bed together.
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Tip 1: Talk about sexual intercourse with your partner.
Admitting what you want and what the problem is the first step in experiencing better sex. Be open to each other’s wants and desires. They may not like going at it unprotected since it’s found in a recent Regional Durex study1 that 80% of women think sex with a condom is more pleasurable. This opens the fun of choosing the best condom for both of you. If you want to feel as if there’s nothing between you two, you can choose Durex Invisible Extra Thin Condom, our thinnest condom to date. Or if you want to last longer in bed, Durex Performa Condom may just be the answer. They may also want to try a new position that helps reach that certain spot (if you know what we mean 😉).
The more you are able to listen to each other, you not only deepen your connection but also help make sex and intimacy fun and pleasurable!
Tip 2: There is more to sexual intercourse.
Penetrative sex doesn’t have to be the main event. Include foreplay and maybe a bit of teasing to spice it up. Sex isn’t only penis-in-vagina intercourse. It could also be oral sex, anal sex, hand jobs or fingering, dry humping, or even masturbating. There are so many ways for your partner to get off. Both of you just have to take the time to explore what each other makes the other tick, grunt, scream, or moan. 😉
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Tip 3: Remember that giving is just as good as receiving.
As they say, do unto others what you want others to do unto you. It’s a push and pull system where you help each other reach the finish line. When you make your partner feel good, you’ll also feel good and maybe get a boost of confidence. 83% of Filipina women experience pleasure when they give pleasure so maybe it’s time to reciprocate the feeling. Include foreplay, pay attention to their other erogenous zones, and listen. Don’t be surprised at that extra zing in your sex life after these.
In Durex’s regional study, we found out that majority of Filipino women enjoy sex less than their partner. So what should be done? Communicate. Explore. Give. Sex is a partnership where both of you gain from your wins so it’s time to be a team player!
Pleasure is elevated when it’s equal. Even more so when you feel safe and secure while doing it. Choose protection that will protect you not only from unwanted pregnancies, but also STIs (sexually transmitted illnesses). Remember, safe sex is good sex!
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References:
- Durex Regional Study. Data on Filipino Women, 18-34 years old
- Why Women May Enjoy Sex Less Than Men, available at https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-and-mating/202205/why-women-may-enjoy-sex-less-men. Accessed on 10 December 2022
- All About Sex, available at https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/sex/all-about-sex. Accessed on 10 December 2022