Think of it this way: when you forgo foreplay, it’s like knowing you deserve the best of the greatest five-course meal — but the waiter suddenly tells you they’re closing and you have to chomp on your mains the soonest possible time. We know, right?
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What is foreplay?
Ok, so first things first. What is it really? Well, foreplay is a key part of sex and makes it even more exciting. When there is foreplay, feel-good hormones are released1. A little foreplay goes a long, long way — especially with women.
Scientific research shows that foreplay does make sex more pleasurable. How? Well, there’s this process called ‘vaginal tenting’2 wherein when a woman’s body becomes aroused, the muscles pull the uterus up a bit making more room in the vagina.
Safe to say, foreplay makes everything so much better. There’s so much more passion, intensity, and intimacy. Your heart is racing. Your blood is pounding. And as the blood flow increases to your genitals — thus helping the vagina lubricate better.
Why is foreplay important?
Did you know that 76% of Pinays desire to have more foreplay*?3 And we understand because sex without foreplay, sex is just sex. Okay, sure it is still amazing on its own. But let’s face it, it’s not the full experience.
Foreplay is when and where you learn what you and your partner likes (and what drives each other wild!).
But if you need more scientific reasons why foreplay is important:
It keeps each other aroused.
Foreplay is what happens before you have sex. It includes anything but penetration. There’s overall touching, kissing, oral pleasure, and other activities that increase physical arousal.
It helps you relax.
Did you know that foreplay reduces performance anxiety?4 It reduces the stress and the pressure you put on yourself because you just take things slow (and steady!)
It makes you learn more from each other.
You get to communicate what you need and what turns you on.
The Million Peso Question: How do you keep each other turned on?
Being turned on varies from person to person.
But here are some tips:
Tip #1: Use your words.
It doesn’t have to necessarily start with touching. You can start by telling your partner they’re sexy, or that they look extra good today, or that their workout is paying off. Just because. Sending a few messages here and there can go a long way.
Tip #2: Steam things up with a steamy shower together.
Lather each other up with shower gels. Touch their breasts, play with their bum, rub them everywhere. The steamier the better.
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Tip #3: Kiss them everywhere.
Leave no skin unkissed! Discover their entire body with your lips. Pay attention to the parts they like best and stay there for a while.
Tip #4: Care for some toys?
Explore each other’s kinks by trying new toys. You might want to add in Durex Play Feel Lube to keep things going. Durex Lubes are made special to increase pleasure and smoothness during sex — regardless if you have biological issues with dryness. Lubes help stimulates and enhances sensations felt during sex.
Long story short, foreplay makes for a better sexperience. Studies show that the majority of Pinays desire for more foreplay in bed. There’s a pleasure gap between couples that needs to be addressed. . It’s time to bridge that by being open and honest with each other about the things that excite you and things you might want to try together. Make it your mission to keep each other excited by having more fun in the bedroom (or some place else).
- What is Foreplay, available at https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-foreplay. Accessed on 05 December 2022.
- Sexual Foreplay, available at https://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/sexual-foreplay.aspx. Accessed on 05 December 2022
- Durex Regional Study. Data on Filipino Women, 18-34 years old.
- How to Alleviate Sex Anxiety, available at https://www.healthline.com/health-news/performance-anxiety-doesnt-mean-end-of-sex-life#How-to-alleviate-sex-anxiety. Accessed on 05 December 2022.